Healing can happen only in a climate of openness and truth.This is the tragedy of Mina. Mina was caught in adultery, one which traumatized her husband. Her need to deny or "stonewall" her wrongdoing prevented her personal, marital, and family healing. What's her primary wound? I believe it's not so ...
Date Posted: April 22, 2013
Categories: Addictions, Attachment Issues, Couple Counseling
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Who is a Psychotherapist? You may be unfamiliar with the term or who he or she is. In fact, lots have misconceptions about it.
Two basic words: healer, helper.
A psychotherapist is one who helps people heal and resolve their emotional, mental, behavioral, or relational problems that cause ...
Apr 20
Categories: Mental Health Professions
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
In Connecticut USA, a few months ago, about 20 children from an elementary school was massacred by a 20-year-old Adam who also killed his mother and himself.You know, I have a daughter - Angel - who is still in the elementary school. I've held her closer and tighter than before after knowing of ...
Apr 10
Categories: Bereavement
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
Do you know that an average toddler laughs about 200 times each day? And according to researchers of laughter, the toddler registers only 6 laughs a day by the time he reaches average adulthood. Tell me, where did the toddler lose 194 laughs?I have a theory. At least, for my self. I think I start ...
Apr 7
Categories: Adult psychological development
Written By:
Dr. Angelo Subida, Psychotherapist
With the stress of everyday life, it's not unusual for a couple to lose their emotional connection. Our relationship therapists cite a number of reasons why a couple loses connection and ends up hardy talking to ...
Apr 4
Categories: Couple Counseling, Empathy, Marital Counseling, Men's Issues, ...
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“The sign of an intelligent people is their ability to control their emotions by the application of reason.”
This quote by the 20th century writer Marya Mannes sums up has Western thought has subordinated emotion to intelligence since just after the time of Charles Darwin. Darwin ...
Mar 22
Categories: Emotional Intelligence
Written By:
Tony Brown
One of the most frequent questions to arise in couples counselling is: can my relationship surive an affair? If you've just found out your partner has had an affair, you're probably devastated. Infidelity can have a major impact on the survival of your relationship and also your emotional ...
Mar 8
Categories: Ending a relationship issues, Infidelity, Marital Counseling, ...
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Depression is a common illness, affecting people with very different lifestyles and backgrounds. Yet there are varying degrees of depression. Some kinds are much more incapacitating than others. Some people experience mild depression, ...
Mar 8
Categories: Depression, Emptiness, Women's Issues
Written By:
Joanna Fishman
With clients who are dissatisfied with their lives and feel it is “all meaningless”, I have found it useful to ask “Are you doing what you really, really, want to do?” Initially many clients are a bit stunned by this question but then after a moment of reflection many reply ...
Feb 25
Categories: Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions, Career Development and ...
Written By:
Brian Scott
If you are interested in relationships, you will be interested in learning about attachment theory. This theory highlights the importance of the relationship between infants and their caregivers. Our relationships in adult life are affected by the quality of this first emotional bond. Indeed, much of what couple counselling ...
Feb 15
Categories: Adult psychological development, Attachment Issues, Child ...
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Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to appreciate one’s own emotions while maintaining awareness of others’. There are different components of the EI process to consider. First, the emotional intelligence of perception concerns the ability to recognize emotion cues in their ...
Feb 13
Categories: Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues, Emotional Intelligence
Written By:
Tony Brown
As mindfulness and CBT make their way into mainstream medicine, there are many hurdles to clear. We need to accomplish more research on the anatomical correlates, neural substrates and cognitive descriptions. We will also need to educate more healthcare practitioners who, until now consider ...
Jan 28
Categories: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Written By:
Tony Brown
Imagine the following scenario. One member of a committed couple arrives home 45 min late. The other member of the couple who spent hours preparing a nice meal feels unappreciated and angrily snaps “Why are you so late?” This seems like an attack to the other mate who was laid off that ...
Jan 18
Categories: Relationships & Marriage
Written By:
Brian Scott
I would like to offer my observations and recommendations based on my work in Singapore between 2005 and 2011 in the field of addictions. To summarize:
I just finished reading a superb article by Timothy Sim on family therapy in Singapore1.
He captures it all. It brought me back to many ...
Jan 10
Categories: Addictions, Compulsive Spending / Shopping, Drug Addiction, Eating ...
Written By:
Marjorie Nixon LCSW
The year has gone by in the blink of an eye and 2012 is coming to an end. Since we are all still here despite the predicted end of the world, let's take some time to look back at some of the articles that you enjoyed the most in the past year. We will continue working hard to give you more ...
Dec 28
Categories: Other
Written By:
Psych Mat Asia Editor
Several years ago after having served in the U.S. Army as a flight medic, I decided to take advantage of some veteran-friendly prices and obtain a private pilot’s license. The $5,000 US price tag, however, was a bit too much for my. Imagine my surprise when an army pilot told me that 10 of ...
Dec 18
Categories: Adult psychological development, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity ...
Written By:
Tony Brown
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Demystifying the process of change in Counselling- How you get better
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Family Constellation Therapy: A Key to Mental Health Issues by Mental health ...
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Clear Signs There Is Serious Chemistry Between You and Your Partner
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The story of the two wolves: Managing your thoughts, feelings and actions
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Anthony Hopkins and the suffering caused by unrecognized Asperger’s ...
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